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Dating Violence is defined as the perpetration or threat of an act of violence
Violence

Violence is the expression of physical force against self or other, compelling action against one's will on pain of being hurt. Variant uses of the term refer to the destruction of non-living objects ....
 by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating or courtship. This violence encompasses all forms: sexual assault
Sexual assault

Sexual assault is is an assault of a sexual nature on another person. Although sexual assaults most frequently are by a man on a woman, it may be by a man on a man, woman on a man or woman on a woman....
, physical violence, verbal
Verbal Abuse

Verbal Abuse is the second release from the Lodi punk rock The Undead. Recorded in February 1983, in guitarist/vocalist Bobby Steele bed room, 2000 copies were released on Post Mortem Records, and five test pressings were made to Bobby....
, mental, or emotional abuse.








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Dating Violence is defined as the perpetration or threat of an act of violence
Violence

Violence is the expression of physical force against self or other, compelling action against one's will on pain of being hurt. Variant uses of the term refer to the destruction of non-living objects ....
 by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating or courtship. This violence encompasses all forms: sexual assault
Sexual assault

Sexual assault is is an assault of a sexual nature on another person. Although sexual assaults most frequently are by a man on a woman, it may be by a man on a man, woman on a man or woman on a woman....
, physical violence, verbal
Verbal Abuse

Verbal Abuse is the second release from the Lodi punk rock The Undead. Recorded in February 1983, in guitarist/vocalist Bobby Steele bed room, 2000 copies were released on Post Mortem Records, and five test pressings were made to Bobby....
, mental, or emotional abuse.

Warning Signs

Tell-tale signs of an abusive relationship:

Emotional Abuse

  • You are afraid of your date
  • You are afraid of making him/her angry and are unable to even disagree with him/her.
  • He/she has publicly embarrassed and humiliated you.

Psychological Abuse

  • Your date threatens to use violence against you or against himself/herself.(e.g. "If you leave me, I will kill myself".)


Sexual Abuse

  • Your date forces you to have sex with him/her.
  • You are afraid to say 'no' to his/her demand for a sexual act from you.
  • Your date does not respect you, but is only interested in gratifying his/her sexual needs.
  • He/she does not care about the consequences of the sexual act or how you feel about it.


Phsyical Abuse

  • You were subjected to some physical attacks by your partner
  • Your date has held you down, pushed you, or even punched, kicked or threw things at you


Controlling behaviour

  • Your date has tried to keep you from seeing your friends
  • You are restricted from contacting your family
  • You are even forced to choose between him/her and your family and friends.
  • Your date on knowing where you are at all times and demands that you justify everything you do
  • He/she will be furious if you spoke with another man/woman
  • He/she expects you to ask permission before seeking healthcare for yourself
  • Your date dictates what you wear and how you appear in public


Profile of abuser and victim


Profile of Abuser

  • Low self-esteem
  • Is obsessively jealous and possessive
  • Controlling
  • History of violence
  • Mood swings or explosive temper
  • Isolates their victim from family, friends, colleagues
  • Emotionally and verbally abusive.
  • Denies beating and/or abuse.
  • Tendency to blame (e.g. In a fight, they will blame external stressors)
  • Uses suicide threats
  • Lack of empathy
  • Spouse is central in his/her life
  • More violent during/after spouse’s pregnancy
  • Intimidating


Profile of Victim:

  • Physical signs of injury
  • Truancy, dropping out of school
  • Failing grades
  • Changes in mood or personality
  • Use of drugs and/or alcohol
  • Emotional outbursts
  • Bruising
  • Increasing isolation from friends and family


Why people stay in an abusive relationship

Victims may remain in an abusive relationship for many reasons, including:
  • Self-blame
  • Minimization of the crime
  • Social or religious stigma
  • Lack of understanding


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