Tease and denial
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Tease and denial is a general term used to describe any technique that involves the sexual stimulation
of a person to cause intense arousal
without climax. It is usually practiced for the express purpose of creating powerful feelings of sexual frustration
and pleasure in the person being stimulated by singly or repeatedly bringing the subject to the brink of orgasm without actually causing orgasm.
Bringing someone to the "edge" (or brink) of orgasm is called "edging". Edging in addition to prolonged sexual excitement or stimulation will frequently produce pre-ejaculate
or "precum", which is often used as lube
during the edging process. This can be seen as a sign that effective teasing of the male has been applied. Blue balls
is another signal that teasing and effective denying has taken place.
A series of T&D sessions can sometimes lead to a ruined orgasm. This can be extremely effective in causing sexual frustration in that the person is led to believe that they are about to have the orgasm that he has been consistently denied. Ruining the orgasm only deflates the orgasmic euphoria and it places the person back in the submissive, controlled position in respect to their partner.
How long the tease lasts, the number of sessions until orgasm (if any) and the methods used vary from couple to couple. This practice is associated with BDSM, but can also be used to augment vanilla sex
relationships as well.
In recent years, Teasing & Denial has become commonly referred to as "Edging" and has become a common element of BDSM play, particularly among Gay men, since it has the elements of teasing/denial and control by the dominant (or "top") person, yet has a infectious risk only equal to mutual masturbation.
Men with a strong libido can be "Edged" many times within a BD/SM scene. All of the chemicals normally released during intercourse or masturbation are released numerous times over the period of Edging play but very little Refractory Period occurs because ejaculation does not take place.
The small amounts of leakage during "Edging" tend to calm-down the person being denied orgasm experiences a great deal of arousal along with small amounts of semen leakage as tiny orgasms are experienced. This provides enough satisfaction to keep the submissive interested in ongoing sexual play, while denying him a full orgasm. A male can be "Edged" over a period of many hours or even a couple of days. The skill of the Top is what makes the difference since they must know how to recognize the signs of impending ejaculation and stop stimulation immediately to avoid orgasm, the end of the Edging scene.
Sexual stimulation
Sexual stimulation is any stimulus that leads to, enhances and maintains sexual arousal, and may lead to ejaculation and/or orgasm...
of a person to cause intense arousal
Sexual arousal
Sexual arousal, or sexual excitement, is the arousal of sexual desire, during or in anticipation of sexual activity. Things that precipitate human sexual arousal are called erotic stimuli, or colloquially known as turn-ons. There are many potential stimuli, both physical or mental, which can cause...
without climax. It is usually practiced for the express purpose of creating powerful feelings of sexual frustration
Sexual frustration
Sexual frustration describes the condition in which a human or animal is in a state of agitation, depression, stress, loneliness or anxiety due to prolonged virginity, sexual inactivity and/or sexual dissatisfaction that leads him or her to want more sex or better sex, or a state in which he or she...
and pleasure in the person being stimulated by singly or repeatedly bringing the subject to the brink of orgasm without actually causing orgasm.
Bringing someone to the "edge" (or brink) of orgasm is called "edging". Edging in addition to prolonged sexual excitement or stimulation will frequently produce pre-ejaculate
Pre-ejaculate
Pre-ejaculate is the clear, colorless, viscous fluid that emits from the urethra of a man's penis when he is sexually aroused. It is similar in composition to semen, but has some significant chemical differences...
or "precum", which is often used as lube
Lube
Lube may refer to:*Lubricant, a substance introduced between two moving surfaces to reduce the friction and wear between them**Personal lubricant, referring to lubricant used in sex acts...
during the edging process. This can be seen as a sign that effective teasing of the male has been applied. Blue balls
Blue balls
Blue balls is a slang term for the condition of temporary fluid congestion in the testicles and prostate region, accompanied by acute testicular pain, caused by prolonged and unsatisfied sexual arousal in the human male. The term is thought to have originated in the United States, first appearing...
is another signal that teasing and effective denying has taken place.
A series of T&D sessions can sometimes lead to a ruined orgasm. This can be extremely effective in causing sexual frustration in that the person is led to believe that they are about to have the orgasm that he has been consistently denied. Ruining the orgasm only deflates the orgasmic euphoria and it places the person back in the submissive, controlled position in respect to their partner.
How long the tease lasts, the number of sessions until orgasm (if any) and the methods used vary from couple to couple. This practice is associated with BDSM, but can also be used to augment vanilla sex
Vanilla sex
Vanilla sex is a description of what a culture regards as standard or conventional sexual behaviour. Different cultures, subcultures and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes this type of sex...
relationships as well.
In recent years, Teasing & Denial has become commonly referred to as "Edging" and has become a common element of BDSM play, particularly among Gay men, since it has the elements of teasing/denial and control by the dominant (or "top") person, yet has a infectious risk only equal to mutual masturbation.
Men with a strong libido can be "Edged" many times within a BD/SM scene. All of the chemicals normally released during intercourse or masturbation are released numerous times over the period of Edging play but very little Refractory Period occurs because ejaculation does not take place.
The small amounts of leakage during "Edging" tend to calm-down the person being denied orgasm experiences a great deal of arousal along with small amounts of semen leakage as tiny orgasms are experienced. This provides enough satisfaction to keep the submissive interested in ongoing sexual play, while denying him a full orgasm. A male can be "Edged" over a period of many hours or even a couple of days. The skill of the Top is what makes the difference since they must know how to recognize the signs of impending ejaculation and stop stimulation immediately to avoid orgasm, the end of the Edging scene.