"Not Meant to Be" is the fifth overall single (first American mainstream single, third Canadian mainstream single and fourth American & Canadian single) by Theory of a Deadman

Theory of a Deadman

Theory of a Deadman is a Canadian rock band from Delta, British Columbia, formed in 2001. The band is currently signed to Roadrunner Records as well as Island Records. The band also includes traits of other music styles, such as country and acoustic, as well as their post-grunge and alternative...

 from the album Scars & Souvenirs

Scars & Souvenirs

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. It has had airplay in the U.S.

United States

The United States of America is a federal constitutional republic comprising fifty states and a federal district...

 and in Canada

Canada

Canada is a North American country consisting of ten provinces and three territories. Located in the northern part of the continent, it extends from the Atlantic Ocean in the east to the Pacific Ocean in the west, and northward into the Arctic Ocean...

, on both rock, mainstream, and Hot AC formats (It was released as a rock format and mainstream single in Canada, while "Hate My Life" was released in the U.S. and Canada as a rock format). It was featured on Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen - The Album. There was a tab book made for "Not Meant to Be," which includes piano and guitar chords/tabs and lyrics. It was published by Hal Leonard.

Song meaning

The song is written from the point of view of a man who wants to be with his ex-girlfriend so much after their relationship ends, but she is never satisfied with him and keeps pushing him away, leaving him thinking that their relationship is "not meant to be."

Production

Tyler Connolly and songwriter/producer/American Idol

American Idol

American Idol, titled American Idol: The Search for a Superstar for the first season, is a reality television singing competition created by Simon Fuller and produced by FremantleMedia North America and 19 Entertainment...

judge Kara DioGuardi

Kara DioGuardi

Kara Elizabeth DioGuardi is an American singer-songwriter, record producer, music publisher, A&R executive, composer and TV personality. She writes music primarily in the light pop-rock, dance, and R&B genres. DioGuardi has worked with many popular artists; her songs have appeared on more than 159...

 wrote the song together at DioGuardi's house.

Amazing. I went over to her place, drank some wine and we wrote 'Not Meant To Be' in 5 minutes. Our writing styles fit together so perfectly it was almost like it was 'meant to be.

- Tyler Connolly

The best part about my job is that you never know who you are going to meet, and who's going to inspire you. Although I'd never worked with Tyler, when he started singing the song, I knew we were onto something special.

- Kara DioGuardi

Music video

The band filmed the music video with Tony Petrossian

Tony Petrossian

Tony Petrossian is an acclaimed director of commercials and music videos. Today, he is best known for his work in television advertisements and music videos. He has directed spots for brands including McDonald's, Nike, Subway, Zoo York, Beeline, Sony Ericsson, the Environmental Defense Fund and...

 in February 2009. It features Kara DioGuardi

Kara DioGuardi

Kara Elizabeth DioGuardi is an American singer-songwriter, record producer, music publisher, A&R executive, composer and TV personality. She writes music primarily in the light pop-rock, dance, and R&B genres. DioGuardi has worked with many popular artists; her songs have appeared on more than 159...

 (the song's co-writer/producer) as the love interest. It was released March 25, 2009. The video begins when Kara walks out on Tyler and breaks up with him. During the video, the objects in the video beginning to start from broken to unbroken and Kara went back to the house and she hugs Tyler. The video ends with Tyler and Kara hugging each other.

Chart positions

Chart (2009)	Peak position
Canadian Hot 100 Canadian Hot 100 The Canadian Hot 100 is a music singles popularity chart issued weekly by Billboard magazine which ranks songs in Canada. The chart debuted in the Billboard issue dated June 16, 2007 and was made available for the first time via their online services on June 7, 2007...	53
U.S. Billboard Hot 100 Billboard Hot 100 The Billboard Hot 100 is the United States music industry standard singles popularity chart issued weekly by Billboard magazine. Chart rankings are based on radio play and sales; the tracking-week for sales begins on Monday and ends on Sunday, while the radio play tracking-week runs from Wednesday...	55
U.S. Billboard Hot Adult Pop Songs	4
U.S. Billboard Adult Contemporary	28
U.S. Billboard Pop 100 Pop 100 The Pop 100 was a songs chart that debuted in February 2005 and was released weekly by Billboard magazine in the United States until its discontinuation in 2009...	53
U.S. Billboard Pop Songs	19