Radha Soami Ji,

It's true that Kaam is one of the five negegive element in Santmat's way but what happens if a man has taken Naam and his wife has not taken and both are newly married. I like to ask this thing to the people that if a couple is newly married (say only 8 months marrige)and husband decides to take naaam and his wife is not taking any Naam. In that situation what that man should do ? Should he go for the sex just for his wife's sake or should he say NO to her wife ? And if he says NO to his wife than what would be the condition of his wife listen that.

Please provide the answer.

Radha Swami Ji,

as i know once a great man told that go to your wife for sex is not bad if it is for a baby. if you have sex for baby that is not kaam bhog that is yog because your intation is not to do wrong thing. apart of that it is bhog and bhog is not good for a satsangi.

Hope you like this one.

Radha Swami Ji.

Radha Swami Ji,

I am leaving for Beas today and recieved your message.
Glad to see the reply. Brother, still my query is unsolved.
I know that as being a Satsangi sex is not good. but trying to explain the condition:

Sex what you are doing is not for your sake but just for the parter's sake coz becoming a satsangi was your decision (by the grace of Babaji), Sex for baby is ok but in any case if you leave sex, wife will feel negetive coz she is not attached to the Santmat resulting small small issue at family end.

I like to say " Sex aakey mann mae nahi hai per just to make the atmosphere cool aap iss cheese ko use kerte hai,
Ab iss cheese ko kaise manage kerey is a big deal".

It's very weiring question.

Radha Swomi Ji,

Please put some light on this basic question. It's very important question related to SantMat. I again repeat that it's not your wish to go for sex but what with the wife who is not related to any SantMat ?

Again, you simply cann't ignore her saying "I am NaamDhaari and can't go for sex". These statements will make irritations in life which inturn will disturb your Dhyaan and Simran course in daily routine.

Now if we do just for baby purpose than I must add that this process everybody knows and can manage twice or thrice in a month which is also not sufficient in any way.

I hope intellactual people understand the issue.
Please discuss and try to reslove this issue as every singel day is important for Dhyaan and Simran and we must not waste the time in solving issues whole life and fighting with wife for this.

Please come up people.

Radha swami ji...
first of all i wish to share and advice as your elder bro..
u are newly married. as per naam dan rule sex outside marriage is prohibitted. u have to take are of ur wives needs and sex is one of it. Sex after a resonable period of time is ok which is ok as u need energy and purity of mind to practice naam daan and ....Dn ignore ur wife as it may lead to wrong taste and sour relationship.
one thing u can do is plan for the child as it may divert ur wives attention a bit
hope it may work. please feel free for any advive which this small man may give. at arunnonu@yahoo.com
at baba ji feet.