My parents threaten to withhold financial support if I don't live on their terms. I'm 41 years old and on disability. It seems as if I never do anything right. Is this emotional blackmail?

As long as the parents both agree to the terms i would say it is time that you acccept responsibility for your actions.
i have known an individual who had one of the worst disibilities around. Paralized from the chest down, lack of ability to have a bowel movement or urination, confined for the rest of his life from 17 years old to 73 years old. he did not rely on support from his family. worked every day on his life and supported a diabled wife.
being blunt, i would say , "Get off your keister and get real. when you are by yourself you can do what you want.

There's a lot more to this story than you know. I WANT to go back to work. They don't want me to try yet they hold their money over my head if I don't do EVERYTHING their way. I've been told that I'm too old to return to school, that I CANNOT work, and all sorts of other things for YEARS.

Not to mention that they took it upon themselves to put my son through college. Now they are threatening him! There's nothing wrong with him. He works and goes to art school full time. Most of the time, he has 50+ hours of homework a week. The reason they keep threatening to cut off their support of him? He doesn't take off work and school to drive 9 hours for a brief visit on a regular basis. When he calls, they don't have time to talk. They later accuse him of not calling them. He gave away two work shifts and drove home weekend before last just to please them. They barely took the time to talk with him.

Like I said, there's a lot to this that I didn't explain because I didn't think I would get any replies.

I've already cut ties with them because they refuse to make any changes in our relationship, and verbally abuse me and my son.

You are the ONLY person who's ever voiced an opinion without knowing anything at all. In fact, you don't even know the nature of my disability.

The man you know is a rarity, I assure you. I'm glad he was able to take care of himself.

All I wanted to know is if it is normal for them to behave the way they are despite telling me to stay on disability and lie about my income so I can get additional medical benefits. These are the same two people who taught me that lying is wrong. I refuse to lie. They have plenty of money.

Honestly, I think they're dependent on US. If they don't have someone to control, they aren't happy. Too bad for them.

"Honestly, I think they're dependent on US. If they don't have someone to control, they aren't happy. Too bad for them."

That's it in a nutshell and since you are smart enough to see this, I suggest
you start saving your disability income to find a place of your own and break the dependency that you have on them.

Look towards low income housing, make an appointment
and get a place big enough so that your son can visit you.

You have just one life so lead it the way you want to
before you have missed it.

Money should never be used as a way to hold someone bound to someone else..