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Remorse is an emotional expression of personal regret
Regret (emotion)

Regret is an intelligent dislike for personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often felt when someone feels sadness, shame, embarrassment, Depression or guilt after committing an action or actions that the person later wishes that he or she had not done....
 felt by a person after he or she has committed an act which they deem to be shameful, hurtful, or violent. Remorse is closely allied to guilt
Guilt

Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person understanding or belief - whether justified or not - that he or she has violated a Morality standard, and is responsible for that violation....
 and self-directed resentment
Resentment

Resentment is an emotion of anger or bitterness felt repeatedly, as a result of a real, or imagined, wrong done.Robert C. Solomon, a professor of continental philosophy at the University of Texas at Austin, places resentment on the same line-continuum with contempt and anger....
. When a person regrets an earlier action or failure to act, it may be because of remorse or in response to various other consequences, including being punished for the act or omission.






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Remorse is an emotional expression of personal regret
Regret (emotion)

Regret is an intelligent dislike for personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often felt when someone feels sadness, shame, embarrassment, Depression or guilt after committing an action or actions that the person later wishes that he or she had not done....
 felt by a person after he or she has committed an act which they deem to be shameful, hurtful, or violent. Remorse is closely allied to guilt
Guilt

Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person understanding or belief - whether justified or not - that he or she has violated a Morality standard, and is responsible for that violation....
 and self-directed resentment
Resentment

Resentment is an emotion of anger or bitterness felt repeatedly, as a result of a real, or imagined, wrong done.Robert C. Solomon, a professor of continental philosophy at the University of Texas at Austin, places resentment on the same line-continuum with contempt and anger....
. When a person regrets an earlier action or failure to act, it may be because of remorse or in response to various other consequences, including being punished for the act or omission. In a legal context, the perceived remorse of an offender is assessed by Western justice systems during trials, sentencing, parole hearings, and in restorative justice
Restorative justice

Restorative Justice is a theory of justice that focuses on crime and wrongdoing as acted against the individual or community rather than the state....
.

A person who is incapable of feeling remorse is often labeled a sociopath
Antisocial personality disorder

Antisocial personality disorder is a personality disorder. It is defined by the American Psychiatric Association's DSM-IV: "The essential feature for the diagnosis is a pervasive pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others that begins in childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood." Deceit and manipul...
 (US) or psychopath
Psychopathy

Psychopathy is a psychology construct that describes chronic immoral and antisocial behavior.The term is often used interchangeably with sociopathy....
 (UK) - formerly a DSM III
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders is published by the American Psychiatric Association and provides diagnostic criteria for classification of mental disorders....
 condition. Some researchers have suggested that this lack is more characteristic of the INTJ
INTJ

INTJ is an abbreviation used in the publications of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to refer to one of the sixteen personality types. The MBTI assessment was developed from the work of prominent psychiatrist Carl G....
 personality, a highly rational
Rationality

Rationality as a term is related to the idea of reason, a word which following Webster's may be derived as much from older terms referring to thinking itself as from giving an account or an explanation....
 temperament that relies very little on emotion
Emotion

An emotion is a mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behavior.Emotions are subjective experiences, or experienced from an individual point of view....
, but the scientific worth and psychological accuracy of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment is a psychometric questionnaire designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions....
 test have been strongly questioned
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment is a psychometric questionnaire designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions....
. In general, a person needs to be unable to feel fear
Fear

Fear is an emotional response to threats and danger. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of pain....
, as well as remorse in order to develop psychopathic traits. Legal and business professions such as insurance have done research on the expression of remorse via apologies, primarily because of the potential litigation and financial implications.

Studies

Two studies on apologizing are The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman
Gary Chapman (author)

Gary Chapman is a relationship counseling and author of the The Five Love Languages series. He is the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc....
 and Jennifer Thomas, and On Apology by Aaron Lazare
Aaron Lazare

Aaron Lazare was the Chancellor and Dean of University of Massachusetts Medical School Massachusetts from May 15, 1991 to March 15, 2007....
. These studies indicate that effective apologies that express remorse typically include a detailed account of the offense; acknowledgment of the hurt or damage done; acceptance of the responsibility for, and ownership of, the act or omission; and an explanation that recognizes one's role. As well, apologies usually include a statement or expression of regret, humility or remorse; a request for forgiveness; and an expression of a credible commitment to change or a promise that it will not happen again. Apologies may also include some form of restitution, compensation or token gesture in line with the damage that you caused. When an apology is delayed, for instance if a friend has been wronged and the offending party does not apologize, the perception of the offense can compound over time. This is sometimes known as compounding remorse.

Compunctulate refers to the act of actively expressing remorse, usually requiring the remorseful individual to physically approach the person to whom they are expressing regret. Recompunculate refers to having to express similarly remorse a second time after committing the same offense over and over again.

In marketing

In a business and marketing
Marketing

Marketing is defined by the American Marketing Association as the activity, set of institutions, and processes for creating, communicating, delivering, and exchanging offerings that have value for customers, clients, partners, and society at large....
 context, "buyer's remorse
Buyer's remorse

Buyer's remorse is an emotional condition whereby a person feels remorse or regret after a purchase. It is frequently associated with the purchase of higher value items which could be considered "bad" although it may also stem from a sense of not wishing to be "wrong"....
" is the concept of regretting a purchase after buying it. From a business perspective, the problem with "buyer's remorse" is that a consumer's fear of regretting having made a purchase may them delay or avoid making these major purchases, which can reduce the sales of companies selling these products. Customers' fears of ending up with "buyer's remorse" is typically much greater for expensive purchases, such as appliances, cars, and houses. Customers' fears range from the mild worry that the item in question may not meet all of their needs (or their families' needs) to the fear that they will end up buying a mechanically or structurally unsound "lemon
Lemon (automobile)

A lemon is a defective Automobile that is found to have numerous or severe defects not readily apparent before its purchase. Any vehicle with these issues can be termed a 'lemon,' and, by extension, any product which has major flaws that render it unfit for its purpose can be described as a 'lemon'....
". To allay consumers' fears, and encourage them to make "big ticket" purchases, companies have used a variety of techniques, such as offering "try-before-you-buy" programs, warranties
Warranty

In commercial and consumer transactions, a warranty is an obligation or guarantee that an Article or Service sold is as factually stated or legally implied by the seller, and that often provides for a specific remedy such as repair or replacement in the event the article or service fails to meet the warranty....
, money-back guarantees, and "30-day exchange" programs.

"Try-before-you-buy" programs range from relatively short trials, as in the case of 30-minute test drives in the automobile market, to several-week loans for other types of products. With high-end home audio products and pro-level musical instruments, the qualities of these expensive products are very subtle and hard to assess; a customer is not able to determine if a $3000 loudspeaker or a $30,000 violin has the sound or tone that they subjectively prefer merely by listening to it or using it in the store for a few hours. To determine if a high-end stereo or musical instrument meets their needs, clients typically take the product out on loan for several weeks, so that they can test the equipment or instrument's response to different types of music and listening environments. Warranties, money-back guarantees, and exchange programs all help to allay the fears of the customer that there will be costly problems with the product; with these programs, the customer knows that in the event of a breakdown, it will be fixed by the store or the product will be replaced.

See also

  • Guilt
    Guilt

    Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person understanding or belief - whether justified or not - that he or she has violated a Morality standard, and is responsible for that violation....
  • Resentment
    Resentment

    Resentment is an emotion of anger or bitterness felt repeatedly, as a result of a real, or imagined, wrong done.Robert C. Solomon, a professor of continental philosophy at the University of Texas at Austin, places resentment on the same line-continuum with contempt and anger....
  • Regret
    Regret (emotion)

    Regret is an intelligent dislike for personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often felt when someone feels sadness, shame, embarrassment, Depression or guilt after committing an action or actions that the person later wishes that he or she had not done....