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Closeted or "in the closet" are phrases generally refer to undisclosed sexual behavior
Human sexual behavior

Human sexual behavior or human sexual practices refers to the manner in which humans experience and express their human sexuality. It encompass a wide range of activities such as strategies to find or attract partners , interactions between individuals, physical intimacy or emotional intimacy, and sexual contact....
, sexual orientation
Sexual orientation

Sexual orientation refers to "an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes." According to the American Psychological Association, "it also refers to an individual?s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of...
 or gender identity
Gender identity

Gender identity is a person's own sense of identification as male or female. The term is intended to distinguish this Psychology association, from Physiology and Sociology aspects of gender....
. The most common of these concern lesbian
Lesbian

File:Lesbian Couple from back holding hands.jpgLesbian is a term most widely used in the English language to describe sexual and romantic desire between females....
, gay
Gay

The term gay was originally used, until well into the mid-20th century, primarily to refer to feelings of being "carefree," "happy," or "bright and showy"; it had also come to acquire some connotations of "immorality" as early as 1637....
, bisexuality
Bisexuality

Bisexuality refers to sexual behavior with or physical attraction to people of both genders , or a bisexual orientation. People who have a bisexual orientation "can experience sexual attraction, emotional, and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex"; "it also refers to an individual?s sense of personal and social i...
 and transgender
Transgender

Transgender is a general term applied to a variety of individuals, behaviors, and groups involving tendencies that diverge from the normative gender role commonly, but not always, assigned at birth, as well as the role traditionally held by society....
 (LGBT
LGBT

LGBT is an acronym and initialism referring collectively to Lesbian,Gay, Bisexuality, and Transgender people. In use since the 1990s, the term ?LGBT? is an adaptation of the initialism ?LGBT? which itself started replacing the phrase ?gay community? which many within LGBT communities felt did not represent accurately all those to which it...
) people as well as people who engage in kinky
Kink (sexual)

Kink is a term used to refer to a broad range of sexual practices , including Erotic_spanking, Bondage , dominance and submission, sadomasochism and sexual fetishism....
 sexual behaviors such as BDSM
BDSM

BDSM is a complex acronym derived from the terms Bondage and Discipline , Dominance and submission , Sadomasochism and masochism . BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities and forms of interpersonal relationships....
 or fetish
Fetish

Fetish may refer to:* Fetish, a song by Dj Falk*Fetishism, the attribution of religious or mystical qualities to inanimate objects*Sexual fetishism, sexual attraction to objects or body parts not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature...
es. Someone who has come out
Coming out

Coming out, or commonly "coming out of the closet," describes the usually voluntary public revealing of a person's sexual orientation and/or gender identity....
 of the closet is considered "out" or "open"; for example, someone who is "openly gay" avoids implying they are heterosexual.

The closet is a "life-shaping pattern of concealment" where gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or intersex individuals hide their sexuality/gender-identity in various areas of life, with family, friends, and at work.






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Closeted or "in the closet" are phrases generally refer to undisclosed sexual behavior
Human sexual behavior

Human sexual behavior or human sexual practices refers to the manner in which humans experience and express their human sexuality. It encompass a wide range of activities such as strategies to find or attract partners , interactions between individuals, physical intimacy or emotional intimacy, and sexual contact....
, sexual orientation
Sexual orientation

Sexual orientation refers to "an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes." According to the American Psychological Association, "it also refers to an individual?s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of...
 or gender identity
Gender identity

Gender identity is a person's own sense of identification as male or female. The term is intended to distinguish this Psychology association, from Physiology and Sociology aspects of gender....
. The most common of these concern lesbian
Lesbian

File:Lesbian Couple from back holding hands.jpgLesbian is a term most widely used in the English language to describe sexual and romantic desire between females....
, gay
Gay

The term gay was originally used, until well into the mid-20th century, primarily to refer to feelings of being "carefree," "happy," or "bright and showy"; it had also come to acquire some connotations of "immorality" as early as 1637....
, bisexuality
Bisexuality

Bisexuality refers to sexual behavior with or physical attraction to people of both genders , or a bisexual orientation. People who have a bisexual orientation "can experience sexual attraction, emotional, and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex"; "it also refers to an individual?s sense of personal and social i...
 and transgender
Transgender

Transgender is a general term applied to a variety of individuals, behaviors, and groups involving tendencies that diverge from the normative gender role commonly, but not always, assigned at birth, as well as the role traditionally held by society....
 (LGBT
LGBT

LGBT is an acronym and initialism referring collectively to Lesbian,Gay, Bisexuality, and Transgender people. In use since the 1990s, the term ?LGBT? is an adaptation of the initialism ?LGBT? which itself started replacing the phrase ?gay community? which many within LGBT communities felt did not represent accurately all those to which it...
) people as well as people who engage in kinky
Kink (sexual)

Kink is a term used to refer to a broad range of sexual practices , including Erotic_spanking, Bondage , dominance and submission, sadomasochism and sexual fetishism....
 sexual behaviors such as BDSM
BDSM

BDSM is a complex acronym derived from the terms Bondage and Discipline , Dominance and submission , Sadomasochism and masochism . BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities and forms of interpersonal relationships....
 or fetish
Fetish

Fetish may refer to:* Fetish, a song by Dj Falk*Fetishism, the attribution of religious or mystical qualities to inanimate objects*Sexual fetishism, sexual attraction to objects or body parts not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature...
es. Someone who has come out
Coming out

Coming out, or commonly "coming out of the closet," describes the usually voluntary public revealing of a person's sexual orientation and/or gender identity....
 of the closet is considered "out" or "open"; for example, someone who is "openly gay" avoids implying they are heterosexual.

The closet is a "life-shaping pattern of concealment" where gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or intersex individuals hide their sexuality/gender-identity in various areas of life, with family, friends, and at work. Individuals may marry or avoid certain jobs or social situations in order to avoid suspicion and exposure. "It is the power of the closet to shape the core of an individual's life that has made homosexuality into a significant personal, social, and political drama in twentieth-century America".

The term 'closet' is also used in a more general way for any behavior that is potentially embarrassing or controversial, and thus kept hidden. (e.g., "He's a closet drinker" or "I'm a closet Trekkie
Trekkie

Trekkie is a term used to describe a fan of all or part of the Star Trek fictional universe....
".)

History of the closet metaphor
Metaphor

Metaphor is language that directly compares seemingly unrelated subjects. It is a figure of speech that compares two or more things without using the words "like" or "as." More generally, a metaphor describes a first subject as being or equal to a second object in some way....
 in reference to sexuality

"The word closet was first used to mean secret or unsuspected as early as the 1600s, but not in relation to a person’s sexuality. Closeted also came into use around the same time and meant to keep something hidden or secret from others. Closet case, closet queen, or closet homosexual began to be used during the middle of the 20th century to mean that someone was hiding their homosexuality from others. Similar terms used around this time period were canned fruit, cedar chest sissy, and dry queen, which have now fallen into disuse."

The closet, as it is now used, dates from the 1950s post-war United States
United States

The United States of America is a Federal government constitutional republic comprising U.S. state and a federal district. The country is situated mostly in central North America, where its Contiguous United States and Washington, D.C., the Capital districts and territories, lie between the Pacific Ocean and Atlantic Oceans, Borders of the U...
, when the deliberateness and aggressiveness of heterosexual enforcement increased. "Gay people in the pre-war years [pre-World War I]... did not speak of coming out of what we call the gay closet but rather of coming out into what they called homosexual society or the gay world, a world neither so small, nor so isolated, nor... so hidden as closet implies". In fact, "using the term 'closet' to refer to" previous times such as "the 1920s and 1930s might be anachronistic
Anachronism

An anachronism is an error in chronology, especially a chronological misplacing of persons, events, objects, or customs in regard to each other....
" (Kennedy 1996).

Connection between the closet and neurosis

Both scientific research and popular culture have purported the notion that there is a connection between being "in the closet" and neurosis
Neurosis

Neurosis , also known as psychoneurosis or neurotic disorder, is a term that refers to any mental imbalance that causes distress, but, unlike a psychosis or some personality disorders, does not prevent or affect rational thought....
.

In 1993, Michelangelo Signorile
Michelangelo Signorile

Michelangelo Signorile, pronounced , is a gay United States writer and a national talk radio host whose program is aired each weekday across the United States and Canada....
 wrote Queer In America in which he explored in depth the harm caused both to the "closeted" individual and to society in general by being in the closet. Signorile promoted the practice of outing
Outing

In the late twentieth century, outing became a common term for taking someone involuntarily "out of the closet"?that is, publicising that someone is gay....
: publicizing, intentionally or unintentionally, the sexual orientation or gender identity of another person who would prefer to keep this information secret. Often "outing" is used solely to damage the outed person's reputation, and has thus been controversial. Some activists, such as Democratic Congressman Barney Frank
Barney Frank

Barnett "Barney" Frank is an American politician in the United States House of Representatives representing since 1981. In 1982 he won his first full term and has been re-elected ever since by wide margins....
 argue that "outing" is appropriate and legitimate in some cases — for example, if the individual is actively working against gay rights.

Classic models of homosexual identity development (i.e., Dank, 1971; Cass, 1984; Coleman, 1989; Troiden, 1989), and most prominently, the Cass identity model
Cass Identity Model

The Cass Identity Model is one of the fundamental theories of LGBT identity development, developed in 1979 by Vivienne Cass. This model was the first to treat gay people as "normal" in a Homophobia society instead of treating homosexuality itself as a problem....
, have perpetuated this suggestion in the social sciences. In the early stages of the coming out
Coming out

Coming out, or commonly "coming out of the closet," describes the usually voluntary public revealing of a person's sexual orientation and/or gender identity....
 process, homosexuals are labeled confused and maladjusted in society. Only by going through this process, these models purport, can one become a well adjusted homosexual.

Closeted individuals have also been reported to be at an increased risk for suicide
Suicide

Suicide is the intentional taking of one's own life. Many dictionaries also note the metaphorical sense of "willful destruction of one's self-interest"....
.

Classic research studies pertaining to "the closet"


The Tearoom Trade

Laud Humphreys'
Laud Humphreys

Laud Humphreys was an United States of America sociology and author....
 classic Tearoom Trade experiment investigated the lives of men in the 1960s who engaged in sexual activity in public restrooms. After observing the behavior, he arranged to interview these men in their homes and found that, other than their homosexual activity, there was little to distinguish these men from heterosexual adult males.

Related terminology

  • A person who is in the closet may be referred to as "closeted" or a "closet case." Calling someone a closet case is generally meant to be disparaging, and usually refers to someone (male) who seems to go to great lengths to prove or assert his masculinity.
  • "Being out" means living a life in which you do not hide that you are not heterosexual, or more generally that you do not hide your sexual orientation or gender identity. "Openly" as in "openly gay" means the same thing.
  • "Coming out of the closet" (often shortened to coming out
    Coming out

    Coming out, or commonly "coming out of the closet," describes the usually voluntary public revealing of a person's sexual orientation and/or gender identity....
    ) describes voluntarily making public one's sexual orientation or gender identity.
  • Similarly, to be "outed" means to have your sexual orientation or gender identity made public non-voluntarily
  • Passing refers to the practice of a person pretending to be of a sexual orientation other than their real one, usually a homosexual or bisexual person pretending to be heterosexual.
  • The Glass Closet (Harlow, 2006) refers to those who may not be out, even to themselves, but others can plainly see that they are, in fact, in the closet.
  • The term closet has been extended to indicate any identity or affiliation that a person keeps secret for fear of persecution or exclusion. Acts of coming out are sometimes delayed or prevented because of stigmas still present in today's society (e.g., because of one's religion, lifestyle, political affiliation, etc.)
  • The term "fire hazard" refers to a flamboyant or "flaming
    Flaming

    Flaming is a hostile and insulting interaction between Internet users. Flaming usually occurs in the social context of a discussion board, Internet Relay Chat or even through e-mail....
    " man who is, for whatever reason, not out and still in the closet.


Criticisms of the closet metaphor

Seidman, Meeks, and Traschen (1999) argue that "the closet" may be becoming an antiquated metaphor in the lives of modern day Americans for two reasons.

  1. Homosexuality is becoming increasingly normalized and the shame and secrecy often associated with it may be in decline.
  2. The metaphor of the closet hinges upon the notion that stigma management is a way of life. However, stigma management may actually be increasingly done situationally.


See also

  • Biphobia
    Biphobia

    Biphobia is a term used to describe fear of and aversion toward bisexuality and bisexuals as a social group or as individuals. People of any sexual orientation can experience such feelings of fear and aversion....
  • Denial
    Denial

    Denial is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud, in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence....
  • Down-low
  • Gay community
    Gay community

    Gay community or LGBT community is a term used to describe the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender subculture. Within the LGBT community there are many identifiable "sub-communities" - the leather subculture community, the Bear community, the Chub community, the lesbian community, the bisexuality community, the transgender communi...
  • Homophobia
    Homophobia

    Homophobia is an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals. Some definitions lack the "irrational" component....
  • List of gay, lesbian or bisexual people
    List of gay, lesbian or bisexual people

    This is a referenced overview list of notable gay, lesbian or bisexuality people. Famous people who are simply rumored to be gay, lesbian or bisexual, are not listed....
  • List of transgender-related topics
    List of transgender-related topics

    Transgender is a complex topic, where consensual and precise definitions have not yet been reached. Usually, the only way to find out how exactly person identify themselves is to ask them, and sometimes, transgender people either cannot or will not define themselves any more specifically than transgender, queer, or genderqueer....
  • National Coming Out Day
    National Coming Out Day

    National Coming Out Day is an internationally-observed civil awareness day for coming out and discussion about gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender issues....
  • Religion and homosexuality
  • Transphobia
    Transphobia

    Transphobia refers to discrimination against transsexuality and transsexual or transgender people, based on the expression of their internal gender identity ....
  • Trapped in the Closet (South Park)


Further reading

  • Epistemology of the Closet (reprinted 1992) by Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick
    Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick

    Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick is an United States theory in the fields of gender studies, queer theory , and critical theory. Influenced by Michel Foucault, Judith Butler, feminism, psychoanalysis, and deconstruction, her work reflects an abiding interest in a wide range of issues and topics, including queer performativity and performance; experime...
    , ISBN 0-520-07874-8.


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