I recently heard mr. b and g.w. discussing (and of course disagreeing) about whether it was possible or impossible to forget after forgiving someone.it is to my understanding(based on my christian faith)along with teachings from well established and influential authoritives of divinity and numerous literature studies,(even psycological) that one of the best ways to tell whether or not you have truly forgiven someone is being able to remember without it hurting.however, let's be mindful that dwelling is a lot more like keeping score.(and when we keep score we are looking for a reason to hold those who hurt us as captives or prisoners in our hearts),and when we do that we are giving that person dominion-power over that area of our lives.remember this as a rule of thumb; forgiving always takes priority over trust.it takes time to trust again after
someone has hurt you. that's why it is essential not to forget while they are trying to re-establish your trust and at the same time not dwell. because dwelling is an excuse to keep score or have a change of heart towards forgiving."while they are trying to re-establish your trust, you want to look out for certain behavioral patterns that are simular to past behavior during the process that eventually violated your trust in the first place, so the possibility of being violated again is minimized.that's why you don't forget"