My boyfriend is a police officer. He doesn't drink every day and he doesn't drink to excess every day...but when he goes on a bender he really goes. It gets out of control, he gets beligerent with everyone around him, and he won't stop drinking.

I have tried everything to get him to snap out of it. I get one excuse after another...when this happens things will be different etc. etc.

He is going through the final stages of a divorce with two children. If his ex finds out he is drinking like this she will snatch those kids away so fast his head will spin. Nothing I say, his family says, etc. seems to help.

I don't know what else to do. I don't want to lose him, and I don't want him to lose his kids or his job. He is a wonderful person when he doesn't drink, or when he controls it. But it is like he uses the alcohol to escape from things. I don't get it.

Everyone loves him so much, and everyone thinks when he is in control that he is such a teriffic wonderful loving caring person and father. But once he goes past his limit on alcohol all that goes out the window.

I want to be here for him and help him...but it is becoming increasingly difficult to keep my cool around him.

HELP!